Advocates for Children

By: Sheila Ellison

Reviewed by Lisa Morin

Whether you became a single mother by choice or if the choice was made for you, this book is for you. Sheila Ellison, the mother of five children, offers a firsthand account of the struggles faced as a single mom in today’s world. She also offers insight provided by dozens of other single mothers that she interviewed for this book. If nothing else, these mothers offer hope, humor and the reality that there is a light at the end of the tunnel that allows you to emerge whole.

The author does not sugarcoat the often-harsh realities of one income, being the sole decision maker and sometimes the only parent available to deal with school, homework, carpools and sports. You are often the only one that can answer those difficult questions that children are so good at asking.

The author reminds us to be honest but gentle because when talking about their father, whom they still love, good or bad. By reaching out to others around you, getting support from other single moms, a therapist or your faith, you can make this new transition in your life a lot less lonely and scary.

Another important point often made throughout the book, and often a difficult one to deal with, is putting aside your bitterness and remembering that you cannot control the choices your ex-husband may make, even when they are hurtful or confusing to your children. The practical advise and insight offered in this book may just be what you have been looking for in this next chapter in your life.